Our Approach
We work with our clients using a very respectful, goal-oriented approach. Building mutual trust and feeling like we are a good fit for one another is an important part of the healing process, so we want to get to know you. That’s why we spend time at the beginning of the therapeutic relationship getting to know you and what your expectations and desires are for counseling. What do you want to change? What do you want your life to look like?
Consider Us Your Ally
We consider ourselves as co-facilitators of your goals rather than all-knowing experts who offer solutions while you just listen. We continually strive to be sympathetic to your difficulties and will show empathy and understanding while listening to you, regardless of the type of situation you face.
A Positive Approach
We have a tendency to be optimistic, so when we see you taking small steps in “your right direction,” you can count on us to notice them and highlight these successes during our work together. We like to encourage others, so you can expect to hear words of encouragement from us.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Theoretically, we work from an emotionally focused orientation. What does that mean? Well, it does NOT mean we are going to get all mushy and emotional during sessions, so don’t worry. What it means is, we will dive down to the heart of the issue.
Getting To The Heart Of The Matter
For instance, you may come in with symptoms of depression or anxiety, or you may be reporting communication issues in your relationship when, really, deep down, it is about some hidden fear of abandonment, fears of inadequacy or just feeling unworthy or disrespected. We will get to the heart of the matter and really explore your situation and see how past experiences may be shaping your current story.
How Emotionally Focused Therapy Works
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on three factors; attachment, family systems and experiential theory. So, what exactly does that mean?
Attachment tells us relationships matter. When we feel close, safe and secure in our important relationships, we relax. Think of a mother holding her baby and the baby cooing with joy. That strong, stable connection creates feelings of contentment and peace. The opposite happens when our relationships are on shaky ground. Shaky relationships create unstable emotions and can contribute to symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Family systems tell us we are not islands living apart from others. In other words, we are a product of both our internal workings as well as our external environment. People, including our friends, family members and partners, can affect us in positive or negative ways. That’s why we need to look at the whole family system. The exciting aspect of family systems is the fact that if you can change one detail of the family dynamic, “one cog in the wheel,” it can take a family in a whole new direction.
Experiential theory focuses on the here and now. One of the greatest tools we have for healing and emotional regulation is mindfulness—that is, the state of being consciously present in the moment. Yes, your past is important because it directly contributes to who you are today and the challenges you face. However, your past does not have to define you.
Is A Past Trauma Affecting You Now?
If you have past trauma that is continuing to disrupt your life, we can certainly explore that. We will practice looking at the world from a broader perspective and work on how your actions, assumptions, beliefs and feelings are affecting your life.
Creating New Channels To Connect In Couples Therapy
During couples therapy, you will practice sharing insights, feelings or assumptions that may not be getting articulated outside of sessions. In the safe space we provide for you and your partner, you can practice new behaviors and express new feelings, which can then be used to improve your relationship in the real world outside the context of therapy.
If you have any more questions about our practice or approach to counseling, feel free to call 480.382.2807 or contact us. Our practice is in North Scottsdale, conveniently located on the southeast corner of Pima and Pinnacle Peak Road. In person or online sessions are available.
